Mental Passions
An Aunt's Plight
copyright westwords 2002
In 2002, a Ohio court gave residential custody of my nephew
to his estranged father . This moment was years in the making
and is courtesy of the wonderful system of family law in
this country. This is a man who's only motivation was
to avoid paying child support a man who is the vice
president of sales at Netshape Corporation in Michigan
and can clearly afford to support this child. Some how a
man from Michigan has convinced a judge in Ohio that a
child living in Florida needed to be in his custody.
Now I know what you all are thinking there must
be something wrong with the mother. I don't know let's
see. She has a master's Degree in computer systems
engineering. She raised her child to have the Lord in
his life. She doesn't drink or smoke anything. Has
never done anything illegal. She put her child's needs
before her own. She goes without so she can put her
child in the best schools possible. Yes she's a
terrible mother. Which brings me to my point, all the
good she has done will now be undermined by this
vicious upheaval.
Eight years of drama caused me to write my
congressmen, senators, the American Bar Association,
the Ohio Judicial Committee and countless others about
this case, to propose changes in the way family law
is structured. While these people were polite enough
they offered no help. My proposed changes would not
benefit men or women but would protect children and
the parent that is truly acting like a parent.
Throughout this ordeal I have found few true
resources for women in the grips of a custody siege.
Yes it is a siege most women realize this much too
late. Sadly often to men it becomes a game to be won
an enemy to be broken. They lose sight of the child
that needs his parents.
Father's Rights groups champion these tactics and
give step by step instruction on how to decimate the
opponent. Even though that someone was once a person
they loved. Their mission cloaks their ultimate goal,
of protecting their money, behind concern for their
child. They bog down the system with countless
motions and charges knowing that an already
overburdened court will not stop to investigate.
I have added a message board below. How many of you
have had the same experience? Were any web sites you
found helpful? Please leave your feedback or relate
your experiences.
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